How to analyze people and choose your tribe?

Leaning on somebody? Craving for someone? Don’t. What do the different people in your life teach you? Lessons.

Leaning on somebody? Craving for someone? Don’t. Yeah, you shouldn’t be wasting your time and energy on something or somebody that does not value you. What do the different people in your life teach you? Lessons. Lessons to find the real people who shall be with you no matter what.

Hello Again People. So is back with another round table discussion. See, the topics I bring to the table might have your different opinions and I completely respect them. That’s why I am open to your opinions and your perspectives. Shall we begin then? Let us.

I have been stuck with people I hardly feel a connection with. I am seriously bearing with them for some sort of formalities or completing the needs. If you are thinking why I am even present in these places despite knowing the details, well the long story short is that I don’t have anywhere else to go. The friends we make while growing up are hardly good to be called friends. The acquaintances we have are hardly a known face in the real world. The connections we build have hardly anything to connect upon. That’s how life treats us, with utmost care (sarcasm intended). But what can be done with the snakes around. As long as we do not find THE group or THE one who belongs to us and vice versa, these are the lessons life throws at us.

Life is quite funny as a matter of fact. If you anywhere think that you can dodge all the barriers and have a peaceful state waiting on you, No. the level of the game keeps increasing and the more valor we show, the more problems we face. It isn’t that bad too as long as the lessons are coming to use. But all the weird lessons that are learned are hardly encountered twice. We meet versions of people, which are entirely different from the previous breed we encountered. How am I supposed to identify if this new human is a red flag or a green flag? There is no condition, right? There are no tests that we prepare to test them and put them in such and such jar. Okay, if someone is coming to argue with me on this about the lessons learnt already and being aware of all the jazz, let me tell you something. I am an emotional human. I am legit a dumb one too. The people I have met are no less. No one was similar to the last one. They had similar outlooks or sometimes the same reaction, but they were never the same. And if you are talking about people being mature, give me a break already. My mental level is not at a top notch level that I can test people instantly. I have an innocent heart, an overthinking and over-imaginative brain and beyond this, I don’t know anything.

I have some serious issues of forgiving. And I love when people are around. It is not always that I need them around me but being surrounded feels good, thanks to the extrovert in me. But this is also a serious concern. Why? Because it just does not allow me to be in my zone for long. Over time, I have mastered the art of enjoying my solitude and protecting my peace, the paths that led me to this were definitely not easy. I had to pull myself out of all the discussions that did not feel welcoming. I pushed myself to uncomfortable places and decided what things actually caused me discomfort. I met people and behaved well with them. I started noticing them behind my back. I talked to a lot of people. And initiated the same conversation with other people to know their version of truth and their perspectives. I sat with myself, consoled myself and pacified myself. Because at the end of the day, I only had me.

But it was enough. It has always been enough. Life may not be a bed of roses. Treating yourself with hate will surely make it a bed of thorns. Thus, before anything and before anyone first learn to love yourself. Acceptance is important. Accept your mistakes and own them, learn from them and interpret them. The scars make you beautiful. The scars make you and I who we are.

So the next time you think you are lonely and you are craving for people, remember the right ones are always there. And about the wrong ones, well it’s already time you start maintaining your professional relationships. Every bond is not meant to entangle in your personal life. Some threads are better left unwoven.

From a silly girl who is growing to be a mature human, soovlogss@gmail.com

Until next time!

Signing off

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