What are components of relationships?

Apparently, the most significant ingredient of relationships seems love. But is it enough? Is love enough to carry on to the whole life?

Ever seen a close breakup of relationships? Like someone close or seen the breakup at close? Have you seen them cry and yell in pain? And then their shatter of heart? It is always a painful sight to behold. And it gets worse when it is a little more intimate for one person.

Years ago, I had my best friend truly in love with her boyfriend. And the story was perfect for me too. I had a thought that if love was like them, I wanted it for myself too. But all that glitters is not gold. The castle of love and hope that was built soon wrecked. After school got over, they both were in different cities. My friend was a hopeless romantic and a sweetheart. She had really thought it would last long because they both were cute and lovely. At the time when long distance was not even a thing, they had carried it beautifully. Never meeting each other outside school, not talking on the phone. The bare minimum which you can expect in a relationship was what they had.

She entered her school and was happy in her new environment too. And he went to her college. Destiny always has plans up its sleeves. I wonder how it manages to pull so many strings at the same time. Thus, one fine day when I was talking to her and I wanted to know how her relationship was going on, she casually told me that it was over. For two complete minutes, I was in shock. I was with some other friends and they kept on asking me. Life plays its tricks and we are all puppets. But the interesting part is that people who are genuine, they get hurt the most. My girl had nothing wrong in her list, supported him through his struggles, talked to him in his lows and as soon as she left her home, he left her hand. I wonder if relationships formed due to intelligence undergo this process. Because they may be too occupied with their knowledge and genius mind that they won’t get the time to understand feelings. But I was seriously wrong. Because I have seen people in love do even the simplest of things. Because if your partner is not happy, the plan needs to have a few changes. It is about emotional quotient too.

Thus, after I have seen my girl braving it all alone, I have concluded that all shimmery things do not have to be pleasant too. The rough patches hurt. The memories leave a scar especially in the cases when one is too emotionally honest and the other is too practical. What binds people together? Love? No. Only love is never enough. The right dish of relationships demands a lot more things. Respect, care, admiration, support, adjustments, understanding, conversations, efforts. And a few more may mark their presence too. But love is never enough.

So, the next time you think of having a relationship, do not haste. For it is a decision that will affect your life ahead. Make a good arrangement of it. Your future self must not cry a lot. Take good and informed decisions for yourself, and you can stop the hurt of two people.

From a girl who grew from hopeless romantic to a mind player, soovlogss@gmail.com

Until next time!

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