What is the fate of girls? Does their education count for them or somebody else?

Good evening, beautiful people. I was having a conversation at home regarding the image of girls in society. And the way it was portrayed was legit the one to be hated. I have heard such orthodoxical attitudes from them that I was surprised about their attitude towards me. I am their daughter, and things were never that difficult for me. So I thought that their perspectives would be the same. But I was quite wrong. The education of girls for them is to build a decent family and marriage is still her biggest achievement. For a point, I can agree to utilising your education for working things at home or helping out. But the concepts of life ahead after education and marriage are ridiculous.

My family does not have conversations like these. And when they do, I get quite irritated and I either do not talk or dodge it by saying something different. My perspectives do not align with them and it results in another choke in the neck, not only mine but also my family’s. They find it hard to believe that their daughter has a set of ideas that are different from them. It is as disheartening for me as it is for them. And I cannot digest the amount of mediocrity of their thoughts, despite supporting me all these years. Or perhaps, that was just a way of catching up with the times when educated girls got in demand.

Because if I cannot think of my dream in the end, If I have to give it up, why is it so important to follow all the unconventional ways earlier? If I have to live as somebody else, why should I develop an identity of my own in the early stages of life? It is difficult to understand this because Education is important and people, though they seem to be progressive, are still cornered with the facts of their son being the main person in the family. What is a single girl child supposed to do for her parents? Nothing as per the normal societal norms. But ever since time started making a shift and girls started taking a stand, some gentlemen were raised too. And they broke the chains of societal rules to support their mothers, sisters and wives in their life. These beautiful men preserved their femininity and encouraged them to be themselves. They accepted them as human beings first and later as women.

And the number of these men are quite less. Patriarchal society, you see. I am in an engineering college and what is expected normally of a graduate from this domain? Job, right? But I was questioned some time back about my life ahead. I replied the same and the counter question was why. I was flustered for a moment like what was that. But when I put forth my point, they kind of got convinced, though I am not sure of it completely. But let’s not dig there. Because hurtful things only have a core memory of distress and anxiety.

My parents have been fine with my education and all but the recent layers of their personality that is peeling off as my graduation is nearing is kind of scaring me. And I really hope that I am in the wrong here. I just wish to be an achiever and a good performer, happy and content with her life. Otherwise, Maybe I have to prepare myself for the battle ahead. I have to get myself in a position where I can bid for myself. Because I can’t and don’t want to choose between my family and my dreams. Hope they understand it all. Hope they support me well. Hope they cheer me on. And if they don’t, I just wish for myself to be strong enough to put up a front to fight my long lost wars.

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Until next time!

Signing off

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